Has your husband or wife put on a few?
Is someone or something that you care for, such as a child or pet just becoming too difficult to “keep up” with?
If this is the case, weight loss discussions might be in order. But how does one tell someone that he or she needs to lose weight without hurting their feelings? Some might believe that honesty is the best policy in these types of situations, but according to Andreea Ciulac of the Chicago Tribune, it can be easy with the right approach.
The article, titled: “How to bring up weight loss with your partner”, is included on Philly.com, and Ciulac says “that knowing the motivations of the person will help you offer non-offensive ways to help a person lose weight”. She adds that “achievements or caregiving can motivate some while money and prestige might motivate others”.
When I first read this section of the article, I must admit to being puzzled, but as I read on, I began to realize what Ciulac was referring to. Achievements are great for people who like to be challenged and Ciulac recommends saying something along the lines of: “I wonder what it takes to lose two pounds in one week. Should we find out together?”
In other words, when one motivates by letting the other know that he or she wants to take on a challenge with them, it helps to bring up the topic of weight loss without being offensive or hurtful. If one is a caregiver to a pet or even a child, reminding that person that they will need energy to “keep up” with the pet or child could also be a less hurtful tactic.
If someone is anything like me, money could be a motivating factor. Andreea Ciulac recommends offering a cash prize: “If we each lose one pound per week, we can take $200 and use it any way that we please”. I must admit to not thinking about money being a motivation to lose weight, but I suppose if it is two loved-ones, such as a married couple, it could work. Finally, Ciulac reminds the readers that “weight gain is often triggered by stress, low self-esteem and sleeping troubles, so one should always check in with their loved-one and find out what is really going on”.
Motivation is an interesting concept and for many people it is something that they have to figure out for themselves. When I decided to lose weight, it was because I thought that was going to make me more attractive to girls, but one has to find their own motivation. Perhaps, the support of a loved one could lead to success.